Last night, I called Baba in Egypt to wish him a Happy Father’s Day. He was excited I called (because he forgot to tell me he was going to Egypt for the summer) because he had forgotten it was Father’s Day. Of course, we ended up having our usual political and religious conversation. I then spoke with my older cousin Mohamed, a father of five, whom I consider a father figure.
After all the phone calls last night between Egypt and California (my poor phone bill), I feel asleep in awe of how something as simple as a phone call can uplift someone’s spirits. I feel asleep reflecting on all the amazing fathers I know.
I had written on a similar reflection back in 2009, Praises for Fathers, the first Father’s Day after the passing of our Amuh Ibrahim.
This year, my little brother became a father for the first time to beautiful baby Salem. He has made us uncles and aunties for the first time too. And boy do we have giant footsteps to follow…
Baba’s relentless struggles to do all that he could for his children.
Mama’s simple amazement of being both a mother and father to her children.
The uncle’s dedication to pave a life long path for my cousins, siblings and I.
The cousin’s unity, many of whom are both fathers and uncles to amazing children of their own.
I know my siblings and I have a lot to learn from you. And for that, I thank you. I pray you all had a great day of celebration on this highlighted day of celebrating the gratitude we hold for the blessing that is you, every day.
I LOVE chocolates… who doesn’t right? I enjoy flowers, we have them in our house all the time. I was raised to always express my love and appreciation to my family and friends. However, I don’t in anyway believe that I or anyone should bring or do any of this exclusively on February the 14th.
Valentine’s Day is one of those Hallmark holidays. I call it that because it was invented to sell greeting cards. There is no holiday in February except for President’s Day… who is going to buy a greeting card for that?It has since evolved into an unnecessary holiday that forces people to spend money. What goes with greeting cards? Flowers. What’s sweet that goes with both? Candy. How to make candy last? Turn it into jewelry, preferably a gem of sorts. What is expected after buying all this stuff? Hopefully three minutes of physical pleasure.
I swear the same goes for May when Hallmark someone invented Mother’s Day and June for Father’s Day. My parents don’t get all upset when no one buys them a present or breakfast in bed. Why? Because we appreciate our parents EVERYDAY. I don’t need a day in the year to go all out for either of them. Their five kids do it every day (or at least attempt to do, I’m not gonna lie!).
So I ask you all, single or not, to celebrate love in all it’s forms EVERYDAY! Not just on February 14th. Don’t feel obligated to go all out just because of the day. Don’t get caught up in this materialistic hype, I’m sure many of you are still paying off the debt you incurred from Christmas not even two months ago!
I’d also like to take the opportunity to tell my family and friends: I LOVE YOU. I appreciate you in all your goodness and flaws. I’m not the person that I am today without you and for that I love you more every day.