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Single and Proud – My Comment

My friend posted on my Facebook this weekend the article titled “Single and Proud” by Rasha Dwedar on the marital status Muslim ladies are choosing, specifically in Egypt. My friend asked for my thoughts and here’s what I had to say…

Skimmed through the article which is exactly what I saw in Egypt… girls dying to get married only to feel stuck. Some get out, some stay put because they don’t know what else to do. I saw a girl put up with a really stupid, idiotic fiance because people envied how cute he/they were. Now she’s married, with a kid, and dare not continue dreaming of going for her masters or her high school diploma hubby will dump her. Those same girls then always ask me why I don’t want to get married and my simple response, “what for?” I know what I want in my life, I’m extremely independent and don’t need someone to “order me around or take care of me”. Until someone out there can share my vision in life, has great ambitions to go further in life and not give two shits what other people might think, then I’ll consider getting married. Until then, single and proud!

Do read the article, “Single and Proud” by Rasha Dwedar, and share your thoughts below.

W.I.S.S. – Are Single Women Too Independent for Their Own Good?

I came across a very interesting article yesterday by Lindsay Schnaidt via Maria Shriver amidst my e-revolution efforts that I felt is relevant to be included in my W.I.S.S. series.

Lindsay notes an interesting point in her article,

There is no shortage of theories on the cause of this. We are too busy or too picky. There just aren’t enough good men out there. Technology has changed how people interact with one another and we aren’t adapting quickly enough. One recent blog even went as far to say many women aren’t married because we are angry, we are sluts or we are selfish.

So my question is: in order to get these husbands, do we need to become a little more needy?

I think that just because we are in fact not with someone doesn’t make us angry, sluts or selfish… just well aware of what we are looking for. With regards to “what we need to be”, I refuse the notion that we should be needy in order to be with someone. If anything, I’m a firm believer that a strong independent lady should be with someone who appreciates her independence and supports it.

Funny enough though that as we ask if we are in fact too independent for our own good, I hear the answer as “yes” from other ladies in my community. However, I get a whole different perspective on that from the gentlemen. One gentleman told me that if a lady is not independent, then there is no point in being with someone that needs constant “babying”. Interesting…

So click here to check out the article and let me know what you think!

…and yes, Ms. Shriver herself granted me permission to repost the article on The Rants!